Important Information on Upcoming 21 day Virtual Usui Retreats

This is the 13th year of the 21day virtual Usui Retreat.

I realized in August of this year that my mail list server had not been functioning for at least 6 months. I had not known this when I sent out the Retreat notice and three week meditation E-mails through the defunct server for the past two retreats; December 21, 2007 and June 21, 2008. What was amazing to me was that during this six months I had not heard from a soul about not getting the mail or asking me where the meditations were and I thought that perhaps there was no longer any interest in continuing the Retreat.

Fortunately I now have heard from many of you when I sent out the E-mail from the new mail server in August and was asked to continue the retreat with a reduction in how many times the retreat was done per year. Many of you found that in December with the holidays there was just too much going on.

It is my commitment to continue to have the Usui Retreat as a focus meditation for the Reiki community. The difference is that the 21 day virtual Usui retreat will be held on the anniversary of Mikao Usui's birth on August 15th. The next Retreat will be on August 15, 2009.

You may access the past two Usui retreat focus meditations on the Wisechoices weblog

The first two meditations of the December 2007 Usui Retreat are linked here

The last meditation of the December 2007 Usui Retreat is linked here

The first two meditations of the June 2008 Usui Retreat are linked here

The last meditation of the June 2008 Usui Retreat is linked here

Please help me fan the flames of possibility by sharing news of the Usui Retreat with all the people you feel will be interested. I would love to see this focus grow, be renewed. I will also open the retreat to others who would like to write the focus meditations. It is not my Retreat, it is our Retreat. The 21 day virtual Usui Retreat is our place to come together, focus and give thanks to Usui, Mother Earth and all of those who are using Reiki to help bring peace and harmony to our world.

Here are links about the Usui Retreat:

The Usui Retreat Invitation
How did the Usui Retreat Start
Retreat Options
Mikao Usui’s original course booklet

Love and Blessings,


An Invitation from Mari

My Dear Friends,

It is my pleasure to share wonderful news. I invite you to work with me directly to help you achieve a balance of body, mind and spirit.

As you know, I have been fortunate to teach Reiki for twenty-five years to thousands of people throughout Europe, Australasia and United States. My books have enabled this work to be available to many more. Throughout this time of teaching, practice and writing, I have continued with my own studying and development in the art of healing. The integration of this learning journey enables me to bring a unique approach to individual clients in search of attaining their own healing. I am also offering new Reiki classes to continue the ripple-on effect of people healing people and themselves.

A brand new section (“Energy work sessions with Mari”) appears on my Wisechoices Web site. Read about upcoming classes and my integrated approach to healing at http://www.wisechoices.com/matrix-reiki-sessions.html

New Office Hours
6103 ALden Street
Houston, TX 77084
By Appointment Only

Home office sessions and Distance Energy Work by Appointment

Make a Personal Appointment
Register for Classes
(281) 856-7910 (home) / (832) 282-4454 (cell) (9 am to 9 pm CST, please)

Next Reiki Classes

September 20: Reiki Level One. September 21: Reiki Level Two.
Learn the art of Usui Reiki, in a sacred, loving, and healing environment

Please specify which Level you wish to sign up for, or whether you are signing up for the Reiki Weekend

Do you have a friend or family member who might benefit from a Reiki session or class? Feel free to forward this message! Gift certificates are available.

If you are interested in group classes outside of the Houston area, please contact me for details.

I am thrilled to have the opportunity to be of service and look forward to seeing you soon!

Love and Blessings,



Final week of the Usui Retreat

May your journey always lead you to places unexpected; may you find wonder and awe at every turn. May your awareness be such that you see that the path you are on is one you have chosen and where new decisions must be made; your faith in your self and in the universe frees you to make the ones required.

May peace, happiness and blessing follow you all the days of your life and to wherever your path takes you and may you rediscover things lost and have new experiences of happiness, fulfillment and success.

Wishing that each day in the remainder of 2008 and beyond is better and better and better.

Happy Summer…Are you ready to begin?

Next, I want you to do something different and unique. I want you to release all the positive memories you are holding on to from your past. Are you holding on to the best Summer you remember? Or the best present you ever received? Could it be your first car or favorite home, your first great love or your proudest moment? Maybe it is happy, loving times with your family, best tasting food, beautiful sunsets, flowers…release it all.

How many of you are holding these positive past events and feelings and using them to judge every experience you create today? Are you comparing every kiss or embrace today to an experience you had in the past? Release every positive experience from your past that is keeping you from being in the present moment and experiencing things as if for the first time.

During the release, make an intention to keep the wisdom, joy, and love from these positive past events. All you're doing is releasing the energetic charges you are holding on to which are still causing you to have judgments and comparisons today.

Once you've released all the charged positive experiences from your past, shower or bathe with fresh water.

Positive experiences often have more of an energetic charge than your fears. Think about it. We do our best to heal the negative things from our past, but we do not realize we are also comparing positive experiences. Releasing all charged memories is a helpful technique to aid us in staying present in the moment.

By letting go of even the good memories and allowing us to be present in the moment of This Summer season, just for it, we will have a choice we may have never had before. We will have the choice of LOVE, the space where miracles can occur.

We are motivated to see our efforts through to their natural end when we can envision the brighter future these endeavors are calculated to bring about. It is easy to become discouraged when we are not quite sure how the outcome of our labors will affect our lives because the potential for negativity is omnipresent. Visualizing precisely what we hope to achieve empowers us to focus on primarily positive probabilities throughout the whole of the goal-realization process. When we feel disheartened by circumstances that interfere with our forward momentum, we need only call our image of success to mind to feel once again enthusiastic about the path we have chosen to follow. Because you are focusing on the fulfillment of your ambitions today, challenges in the present will have no power to adversely affect your mood.

To finish I want to encourage you to journal your experiences…. Mapping The Inner Journey using Journaling as Meditation

Of the countless forms of meditation we can use, journaling offers its own unique benefits. Most meditations help empty the mind of concerns and bring positive ideas from our mental landscape, but journaling helps us anchor that experience in the material world. Not every person is attracted to meditating in seated silence, and journal meditation is a nice alternative as an active meditation. It allows us to trace our journey and see where we have grown and what lessons we may be repeating. By employing a different part of the brain than creative or inspired thought, writing or typing a journal can create a greater sense of connection and union with our physical selves and the world around us.

In working through challenges, it can be helpful to first empty all worries from our heads onto the safe pages of our journal. Fears can be brought to light rather than allowing them to haunt the dark corners of our subconscious. We may even feel heaviness dissipate once our heads are free from clutter, leaving space for inspiration and the creation of positive images in their place. Often in the process of writing out all the details of an event that troubles us, something that had been forgotten will come to the surface, providing a missing piece of the puzzle. Then we can truly begin to come up with answers, and write them down beside the worries to map the way from concern to constructive thought.

For capturing guidance and flashes of inspiration, journaling is ideal. This is especially true in the case of dreams, which often fade as we awaken. While working toward goals, keeping track of progress as well as guidance from readings or divination tools can be encouraging. Though it can be difficult to keep all of our guidance in the front of our minds, if we write it down it can serve as a reminder whenever we need it. We can also use our journals to converse with our higher selves or even the universe. Journaling offers yet another way to unburden mind and spirit, while also creating a record of the present and preserving our hopes and dreams for the future.

From my heart to yours,
Blessings and Love,


The 2nd week of the Usui Retreat

Here we are at the beginning of week two. Several people wrote and asked me about the Life Training Program which is now... The More to Life Program. The name has been changed since I did the training in 1983 to the More to Life program. More To Life courses teach practical tools and skills that help you connect with your best self whenever you choose and grasp more of the creative possibilities in every life situation. I highly recommend this program to everyone…it certainly gave me the tools to have more to my life. You can find out more by following this link: http://www.moretolife.org/

I am sharing a process that a gifted spiritual teacher named Ken Page and his wife teach. It is excellent and naturally follows on from our first week together.

This summer season, you are being given a GIFT. Each summer past holds a memory, good or sad. Some of you may even hold the memory of one summer holiday that was truly wonderful, often comparing each following summer season. The holding on to that memory can bring about disappointment, resulting in the emotion of sadness. This summer season, let go of ALL memories of summers past by using the following simple 'Pattern Release Technique':

Old energy patterns can keep you out of the present moment. A good time to use this technique is while taking a bath, so plan for fifteen to thirty undisturbed minutes. Take off your jewelry, including your rings. Light a candle to represent a spiritual person you admire, such as Krishna, Sai Baba, Moses, Jesus, Mother Mary, or Buddha. Picture them with you. Feel the unconditional love this spiritual person reflects and recognize that place of love inside yourself.

Stare at the flame and release old feelings, thoughts, programs, issues, and fears. Allow them to flow through you. Say them either out loud or in silence. Your intention to clear yourself is most important.

Begin by releasing the things you are afraid of, such as losing your job, getting older, being poor, sick, or alone. Next release thoughts, feelings, and emotions you are holding, such as guilt, anger, hate, abandonment, separation, betrayal, grief, sorrow, or sadness. Release feelings of being helpless, hopeless, used, or trapped. Release feelings of pain and jealousy. Release all the feelings and projections of others that you have bought into. During the release, make an intention to keep the wisdom gained from these events and your feelings. Above all use your Reiki hands to respond to areas in your body that are cold, warm and/or dense (this is where reactive energy has been stored)

Once you've released all the charged negative and positive experiences from your past, shower or bathe with fresh water. Give thanks for the opportunity to let go and make more space in you. It may help to journal about your experience…once you are dried off and all bundled up after your bath that is.

I am sharing a wonderful site with a beautiful and meaningful song to hear. Follow this link;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AMOMgQCRAqM I choose Love!

I am looking forward to being with you next week. Have a wonderful entry into this summer of 2008

Love, Mari


Welcome to the Semi Annual Usui Retreat

Rather than giving you three different meditations this retreat. I have decided to give you some areas to focus on and work through. I like to think of it as spiritual weeding the garden time in order to plant new flowers for the future. Perhaps your mind is saying that you do not have time to do this or that you want to wait until after the retreat that is fine. We live in exciting and fast times however, doing this is a great gift that you give yourself; and you are worth doing the work for.

In order to achieve the depth of thought necessary to thoroughly examine your life, consider meditating on your past, present, and future lives. You may discover that what you thought was the most fulfilling path is only a detour and that you can find greater happiness by changing directions. As you look deep within yourself, be sure to explore your emotional state and ask yourself how the decisions you made in the past have shaped your life.

Taking time to ponder your life’s direction can help you navigate your chosen path in a more conscious way. Often, we move through life unaware of what is going on around us or oblivious of the impact our actions have on others. Thinking about the life you have created for yourself and regularly revisiting the choices you have made gives you a chance to determine the direction you need to follow. Attaining your desires will bring you even greater satisfaction when you’ve pursued them with mindfulness. Spend some time in deep thought about your life, and you will acquire a fresh perspective.

Life Review

I do a semi annual life review to see how much of my energy is devoted to what makes me feel alive and also on the things that drain my energy that do not support me.

By taking the time to come inside ourselves to review our lives we can then make internal and external changes, because we see that the old structure, beliefs or time spent that does not nourish us and is not what we want or need. We then can move forward in our lives filled with promises that we can keep. By doing this process semi-annually if there are course corrections to make I do them right away. I decided that I am worth the time taken and I suggest that you’re worth it as well.

In cultures through out the world people make resolutions for the New Year to bring about change. Often times this may be the resolution to lose the extra weight that we seem to put on with all the Christmas cookies and rich food we eat during the holiday time. We begin the year full of good intentions and ending up mentally beating ourselves up because we did not keep our promises. I went through that for many years until I started doing my semi-annual life review. With this information I could see and feel the necessity for change and move into those changes out of a strong desire to live my life in a different way. What perfect time to do this in the beginning of summer and the end of the year. I take time to check and see where I am with my intentions in my living and loving.

I have decided to share the process of the life review with you. Perhaps you will want to take the time to answer these questions. It is worth regularly spending time on the exercise. Be careful to distinguish what YOU want from what your family, friends or partner think you should want. Bear in mind that we can keep changing our goals, but unless we have a destination in mind, we are unlikely to set off on the journey at all.

Make a list of any activities that make you feel really alive, activities that absorb you so that time seems to dissolve, or which give you a sense of inner peace and satisfaction. What do you really enjoy? What makes your heart glow and your spirit dance? Is it a walk in the forest, gardening, reading a novel, and writing poetry? Listening to music, chatting with friends, and painting, jogging, making love or traveling to new places? Perhaps it is doing charity work or playing with children? Could it be certain aspects of your job? Which PEOPLE make you feel good? Make sure the list is based upon how you feel now, not upon what you used to enjoy, or think you should enjoy, or what other people like to do.

Next make a second list of any activities (or People) which deaden or deplete you, which leave you feeling tired, board or under stress.

Now assess how much of your life is devoted to each list. Does this reflect how "alive" or "dead" you feel? How might you begin to change the balance so that you feel more and more energized?

2) Review your life, and where it is going:
* What are your secret ambitions (large and small)?
* What are your strengths, talents and abilities?
* What does, or would, give your life meaning and purpose?
* What personal qualities do you wish to develop?
* What is your ideal lifestyle?
* What do you wish to experience in life?
* What do you need- physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually?
* Is your work (whether paid or unpaid) just a way of paying the rent, or is it important to you as a person?
* Are you learning and growing in everyday life?
* Is your life challenging enough? Relaxing enough? Loving enough?
* If you knew you only had five years to live, what would you do?

Remind yourself that: this is not a dress rehearsal for life. This is IT! How do you want to create your life now?

What you can do, or dream you can, begin it: Boldness has genius, power and magic in it.

The other part of the review that I do at semi annually is to undertake a process that I learned in the "Life Training" program. I write down a list of all the people I have had a judgment about, or not forgiven for something. In fact anyone I have had the least amount of ill will towards. Beside each name I write the result of this action (payoff) and how I have behaved, it could be one of the following or more: victim, superior, confused and what was the cost of holding on to this anger, resentment or pain in terms of my own energy, how has this situation affected me mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I allow my self to feel the pain of separation, the cost of being so right in my judgments.

Then I write a letter to each person and tell them how I have reacted. I take full responsibility for my part in any and all of the situations and I ask for their forgiveness, while also forgiving them for what I think they have done to me. If it is possible I go and speak to them face to face and to be heart to heart. Wiping the slate clean, putting forgiveness where there was judgment, light where there was darkness.

Your mind may be saying that it is nearly impossible to do any of this, but it is not impossible. I had thoughts like that myself the first time I did this review, but soon realized how much better I felt and how much clearer my life seemed to be afterwards. It had been worth all the effort so that the past was truly past. The future is ahead and I am in this moment in the NOW.

The beauty and power and the joy in life is not in what happens, it is in the motion, in the movement, and in the constant process of change. Joy is the incredible dance of life. We always know what the next step of our lives should be; which area of our lives needs to be resolved, and where we need to find the courage and self love to start moving.

I encourage you to stop dragging your past along with you as you try to create a future. We are half way to 2009. Take the time to stop and review your life and make the changes necessary so that you can truly enjoy the dance of life and all the pleasure life brings.

Looking forward to being with you next week……I would love to hear what you discovered and how you were feeling.

Love, Mari


How to Dance in the Rain

"Authentic spirituality awakens the soul, reconnects us with the sacred, and fills us with the passion of life. Spiritual development is not about religious rituals and practices; it is about waking up to the wonder of life." -- David N. Elkins

"Allowing the truth of who you are--your spiritual self--to rule your life means you stop the struggle and learn to move with the flow of your life." -- Oprah Winfrey

Let Yourself Be Carried
The Flow of the Universe

The flow of the universe moves through everything. It is in the rocks that form, get pounded into dust, and are blown away. It is in the blossoming of a flower born from a seed planted in the spring. The growth cycle that every human being goes through is part of this natural flow, which is also the current that takes us down life’s paths. When we move with it rather than resisting it, we are riding on the universal wave that allows us to flow with life.

Many people live struggling against this current. They try to use force or resistance to will their lives into happening in the way they think it should. Others move with it like a sailor using the wind, trusting that the universe is taking them exactly where they need to be at all times. This flow is accessible to everyone because it travels through and around us. We are always riding it—it is just a matter of whether we are willing to go with it or we resist it. Choosing to go with the flow is often a matter of relinquishing the notion that we need to be in control at all times.

The flow is always transporting you where you need to go. It is merely a question of deciding whether you plan on accepting the ride or having it take you there with your feet dragging. Learning to step into it can help you feel a connection to a force that is greater than you and is always there to support you. The decision to go with the flow takes courage because you are surrendering the belief that you need to do everything by yourself. Riding the flow of the universe can be effortless, exhilarating, and unlike anything you ever expected. When you are receptive to being in it, you open yourself to possibilities that exist beyond the grasp of your control.

As a child, you were naturally swept by the flow. Tears of sadness falling down your face could just as quickly turn to tears of laughter. The mere tiniest wave carrying you forward off the shores of the ocean could transport you into peals of delight.

Our souls feel good when we go with the flow of the universe. All we have to do is make the choice to ride its currents.

Going Back By Going Within
Healing Childhood Wounds

Events from childhood, our first experiences, have the power to shape our lives. Some do so immediately, offering us challenges to overcome and encouragement to make use of our talents and interests. In the process character is built, and we make the first steps upon our personal paths. Other events seem to lay dormant until adulthood, when our closest relationships help to bring out the deepest aspects of ourselves. This is when unexamined lessons can be put to use and untended childhood wounds make themselves known in a call for healing.

We may discover issues of trust coming up, or perhaps we find ourselves mirroring actions from our past instinctively. No matter the case, we have the power within us to heal ourselves at the deepest level. With the wisdom of an adult, we can be the loving parent or guardian we needed as a child. Knowing that we are each whole spiritual beings having a human experience, we can nurture ourselves from that wholeness, and then reach out to others as well. We can recreate scenarios in our mind’s eye, trying different outcomes and following them to their logical conclusions. In doing so, we may be able to imagine possible reasons a situation occurred as it did, and even accept that it could not have happened any other way. With the wisdom born from age and experience, we might be able to see events from a different perspective, bringing new understanding and freeing ourselves from any hold the past may have on us.

Life offers opportunities to clear these weeds in the gardens of our souls. However, when we want to focus on easier and more pleasant tasks, we are likely to pass up the chances, leaving the wounds to continue to drain our energy and resources for living life fully today. We might find we need support to face the events of the past, so turning to a trained professional who can offer tools for healing can be a valid choice. As long as we remember that the child we were lives on within us, we are always free to go back and right old wrongs, correct mistaken perceptions, heal wounds, forgive, and begin anew.

Asking And Receiving
Prayer And Meditation

Prayer and meditation are similar practices in that they both offer us a connection to the divine, but they also differ from one another in significant ways. Put simply, prayer is when we ask the universe for something, and meditation is when we listen. When we pray, we use language to express our innermost thoughts and feelings to a higher power. Sometimes, we plumb the depths within ourselves and allow whatever comes to the surface to flow out in our prayer. At other times, we pray words that were written by someone else but that express what we want to say. Prayer is reaching out to the universe with questions, pleas for help, gratitude, and praise.

Meditation, on the other hand, has a silent quality that honors the art of receptivity. When we meditate, we cease movement and allow the activity of our minds and hearts to go on without us in a sense. Eventually, we fall into a deep silence, a place that underlies all the noise and fray of daily human existence. In this place, it becomes possible for us to hear the universe as it speaks for itself, responds to our questions, or sits with us in its silent way.

Both prayer and meditation are indispensable tools for navigating our relationship with the universe and with ourselves. They are also natural complements to one another, and one makes way for the other just as the crest of a wave gives way to its hollow. If we tend to do only one or the other, prayer or meditation, we may find that we are out of balance, and we might benefit from exploring the missing form of communication. There are times when we need to reach out and express ourselves, fully exorcising our insides, and times when we are empty, ready to rest in quiet receiving. When we allow ourselves to do both, we begin to have a true conversation with the universe.

Analyzing The Path
Recognizing Happiness

Those of us on the path of personal and spiritual growth have a tendency to analyze our unhappiness in order to find the causes and make improvements. But it is just as important, if not more so, to analyze our happiness. Since we have the ability to rise above and observe our emotions, we can recognize when we are feeling joyful and content. Then we can harness the power of the moment by savoring our feelings and taking time to be grateful for them.

Recognition is the first step in creating change, therefore recognizing what it feels like to be happy is the first step toward sustaining happiness in our lives. We can examine how joy feels in our bodies and what thoughts run through our minds in times of bliss. Without diminishing its power, we can retrace our steps to discover what may have put us in this frame of mind, and then we can take note of the choices we’ve made while there. We might realize that we are generally more giving and forgiving when there’s a smile on our face, or that we are more likely to laugh off small annoyances and the actions of others when they don’t resonate with our light mood.

Once we know what it feels like and can identify some of the triggers and are aware of our actions, we can recreate that happiness when we are feeling low. Knowing that like attracts like, we can pull ourselves out of a blue mood by focusing on joy. We might find that forcing ourselves to be giving and forgiving, even when it doesn’t seem to come naturally, helps us to reconnect with the joy that usually precedes it. If we can identify a song, a picture, or a pet as a happiness trigger, we can use them as tools to recapture joy if we are having trouble finding it. By focusing our energy on analyzing happiness and all that it encompasses, we feed, nurture, and attract more of it into our lives, eventually making a habit of happiness

Here is a great article written by a friend of mine “Anna of Cyprus”. In fact her entire newsletter is wonderful here is a link to it because what she is writing is amazing.



Well it's time overdue to write about Forgiveness, because when we are unable to forgive, it is we ourselves that we imprison with and by our memories, and we ourselves that become or stay stuck in the past. And as we stay stuck, our people around us reflect this too; because we are all inter-connected.

Stuck energy is something that does not grow, it literally looks like a hairball or glue ball or something similar in the subtle, or energetic planes. When we have this in our system, the life force cannot flow through us and in many ways we shrivel and often die, emotionally and mentally if not also physically.

It's neither easy to forgive nor it is an easy subject to write about. All of Life, as with all of our experiences, is highly subjective and we deem someone to be 'right' - or not - in terms of how our experiences, conditioning and views have shaped our own lives.

So we nod our heads and agree with, or not, with someone whose actions can be defined by ourselves as 'right' or 'wrong', 'good' or 'bad'.

When someone does or says something that does not agree with this, or we allow invading our personal space in any way, we deem them to be 'wrong', or 'bad', and this can be basis of grievance that can last literally for years, if not for lifetimes.

I see this so often and it can be so, so sad all round.

For the person who nurtures any grievance, this means that they are holding onto an energy that is eating them up, literally. How? Because all grievances are held in the mind - and by extension also our physical bodies - and are locked therein by the energy of Anger and its projection, Judgment. Sometimes also the energy of guilt is present, although not in every case. But anger and by effect, judgment, is always, always present.

Anger, originally designed by nature to be a motivating force for change, is something that mankind has for thousands of years used as a weapon to destroy (usually each other, but mostly ourselves).

In the physical body in simplistic terms, anger is often the reason why a single cell might change form to enable a virus to be born or held in our bodies. It can also impact the immune system so that such a virus might grow and spread. It can be a basis of fever and any kind of inflammation, and can also be a cause of cancer. Having said this though of course there is never any one single reason why anything 'could' or 'should' happen to anyone - we are all the sum total of our experiences, genetic, karmic and spiritual histories and everyone is different (even though we are all One). In any case, the body is a hologram and this especially must also be taken into account.

Anger is often masked by Depression, mostly because we don't usually know how to manage ourselves when we are angry, especially when we've been taught that it's wrong to be thus. The energy used in screwing down anger within the physical body is immense and can suppress much other energy - causing 'depression'. When we have a lot of depressed (and secretly angry) individuals (and all medicated against it), we can have whole societies that are depressed (and heaving with rage, within); this can explain why different velocity of different dis-eases present as themes in different societies.

When we are unable to forgive, we find quite often we replay our issues in our minds, again and again, speaking often of them and communicating them subliminally too in between our words and thoughts, as they are embedded in the light cells and subtle energetic grids with which we do our real communication. It's as if there is a video constantly playing in our minds about what so-and-so 'did to us', which is able to trigger the same anger and associated emotions in us whenever we remind ourselves about such-and-such.

Few people, though, recognize that there are often many different sides to a joint experience, as many perspectives as there are people (and observers!) We can usually only see one side of the story, that is, our own, and we are usually unaware of what part of our energies have fed into any given situation.

At personality level we can of course speak of many different reasons why things happen in the way they do and many of us spend a lot of time doing this, usually in a coffee shop or tea-house. At a deeper, soul level though, there is no such thing as a co-incidence and that everything always happens for a purpose.

Going directly to the deeper level then, remember the concept that All is One, and that there is no external reality. Everything therefore is a projection of our inner selves and if there is any sort of disharmony inside us, these are projected for us to see, experience and therefore know ourselves differently, and to harmonize within ourselves, consciously, if we so choose. This is both an understanding and acceptance of the God/dess within us all, part of the natural order of Life, and is also the Journey of the Soul.

If we are willing to see Life from this perspective, then we might also be able to open ourselves up to many other different perspectives too, including the one of the perpetrator of whatever is was 'against us'.

When we are willing to do this, we might come to a different sort of understanding of events as they might have been. From understanding often comes compassion, which in turn leads to acceptance of Life as it really is, for many, not just for us. With this then, we might be able to bring ourselves to forgiveness, so that we can clear the energies and can all move on.

To forgive after all means "to give so that we can move forward", there is no co-incidence in the word as it is written in English. In order to have clearance at all levels, someone has to give something to enable stuck energy to flow. If other people are not as aware as we are - or even if they have done something 'so terrible against us' - if we do not have compassion for either their state of being or their pain, it is we ourselves who remain stuck and forever in that energy, usual in pain. We've seen it so often in people around us, in almost every case it is we ourselves who are in this place too.

How do we apply this spiritual principle on a human level? It's true that I've sat often with many of you as you've shared your stories of joint experiences and my eyeballs have fallen out of my head with disbelief at man's humanity to fellow man. I've been in that place myself too where I have allowed people for whatever reason to choose to use me for target practice. For me in the past, sometimes it's been a call to practice for discernment, which means I deliberately determine for myself what I will allow to happen in my Life (or not); sometimes is about conscious and respectful application of personal boundaries and at other times it has been about trust issues (leading back to discernment).

It has never been just about the other person, it has always at some level been about me too. I have usually been out of integrity with myself in some way for these situations to have occurred. I recognize and own this.

With the above spiritual principles in mind, when there has been anger, I have recognized too that it has been always been an anger against myself for having allowed such-and-such situation to have occurred in the first place.

For forgiveness to start, we have to first of all transmute the anger. To do this we have to feel it by being in it, and then to express it appropriately. The latter word 'appropriately' is a huge response-ability for us all because few people know how to do it this way. What I usually do is to tell someone how I felt when a certain situation occurred. I am very careful not to blame, because blame anchors us in the past and creates victims where there can be none.

What we are doing here is clearing energy - usually old - so that we can be fully present in the present moment rather than rooted in the past.

Sometimes I can do it direct with the other party, sometimes I feel I need a third party to help me hold space whilst I do this. These friends, sometimes healers, sometimes not, only need to hold the space with me whilst I go through the emotion. I do not need them add to the flame with their own judgments - this is not usually helpful to the understanding and ownership of different perspectives. Usually all that is needed is the phrase "I can understand how/why you feel this way." That's all. We just need to be heard. It normally takes me about 7-10 minutes to transmute particularly the energy of anger. Then I can let it go and get on with Life.

If the other person has moved on, or passed on, we can still do the same thing by writing a letter, or asking a friend to step into that person's energy in order to assist. For the latter, though, I would suggest this be done by a healer who is very conscious of which energy is coming up for release and when. It's extremely powerful work.

If an apology is forthcoming, that greatly facilitates the process, but often it is not, so we have to find creative ways around this in order to free ourselves from bondage to anger and judgment (our own, that is).

It's all about resolution at the end of the day. Without this, a coming to terms with Life and an acceptance of All That Is, Life - our lives that is - will forever be full of conflict. It will continuously reflect an inner judgment that we are not good enough, that people might not like us, etc….too much, too little, not enough, too young, too old, too new, too big, too small, too dirty, too clean. The internal chatter goes on, and we take it all so personally. Otherwise, 'it' wouldn't be an issue.

When we are able to come to an acceptance of All That Is, of all that is Life, we can come to an acceptance of ourselves too, and vice versa (remember, Life is a hologram and always interconnected). Forgiveness is really all about acceptance, of our ability (and fundamental desire) to let go, to live in the present moment by resolving our past and allowing our future to take care of it. That Unconditional Love that we all essentially are is then able to express itself freely, and the energies will start to flow again. When we are quiet, peaceful and in acceptance within ourselves, and the energies are starting to flow, which means our lives are flowing nicely, how would our external world be like for us to live in then?

I hope the above has answered some of your questions about forgiveness on an individual level. At community and national level, it is a little bit more complex - but not by much. If you have any more please do just ask and I'll do my best to help you find answers.

Anna of Cyprus (anna@onetouch-centre.com)

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Last but not least here is something that I am putting up in my office

'Life isn't about how to survive the storm,
but how to dance in the rain.'

Blessings and Love,



Spring in the Meditation Garden

The picture I have posted is one of our critters in the garden with his own eating and exercise style. He hangs upside down and eats. When he wants another bite of corn he does his form of a sit up to reach the food and then goes back down to eat. We can learn so much from watching life in the garden.

I know it has been a while since I have posted a newsletter. I apologize to all of you. My life has been full of challenges and I have needed the time to go inside and process what life has been bringing to me lately. Or another way to look at is what and why have I attracted these occurrences to my life at the present time? One of my core issues that kept coming up is that when I wanted time for myself or even to do something just for me I thought/accused myself of being selfish. Boy that early programming is hard to put aside. The very thing I have needed to do in order to process and stay quiet inside I considered “bad’ therefore putting myself in a catch 22.

A few mornings ago I woke up and found a message in my E-mail relating to my very issue. Isn’t it great when we get the answers that even have only thought about?

"One of the last things any of us want to be called is 'selfish.' It has a very negative connotation in our society. We often end up doing things we don't want to do to avoid being considered or seen as selfish by others.

In my counseling work with people, I often hear the questions, 'Aren't I being selfish if I take care of myself instead of take care of everyone else? Am I being selfish if I do what I want instead of what someone else wants me to do?'
The problem occurs because of an excessively broad, inaccurate, and/or skewed definition of 'selfish.'

To be more specific, we are being selfish when:

• We 'expect' others to give themselves up for us.
• We make others responsible for our feelings of pain and joy.
• We get angry at others for doing what they want to do rather than doing what we want them to do.
• We consistently make our own feelings, wants, needs, and desires most important without also considering others' feelings, wants, needs, and desires.
• We believe we are entitled to special treatment, as if life and the world owed us something.

However, we are being self-responsible (vs. selfish) when:

• We take care of our own feeling, wants, desires, and needs rather than 'expecting' others to take care of us.
• We support others in doing what brings them joy, even when they are not doing what we want them to do.
• We show caring toward others for the joy it gives us rather than out of fear, obligation, or guilt.
• We have the courage to take loving action on our own behalf, even if someone gets angry with us. For example, we go to bed early because we are tired, even if our partner gets angry at us for not watching a movie or TV show with him or her.
• We have the courage to speak our truth about what we will or will not do, and what we do or do not feel, rather than give ourselves up to avoid criticism, anger, or rejection.

Giving ourselves up to avoid being called selfish is not self-responsible - in fact, it is manipulative and dishonest. When we give ourselves up to avoid criticism or letting someone down, we are trying to control how others feel about us.
Taking loving care of ourselves, with no intent to harm another is self-responsible. Yet we are often called 'selfish' when we take care of ourselves in this way.

Therefore, it is important for each of us to define selfishness and self-responsibility for ourselves so that we are not dependent upon others' definition of it and us. When you become secure in knowing that you not only have the right, but the responsibility, to support your own joy and highest good - with no intent to harm another - then you will not be tempted to give yourself up when someone tells you that you are selfish for not doing what he or she wants you to do.

When you are secure in knowing that your own intent is a loving one toward yourself and others, you do not have to manipulate others into defining you as caring by totally giving yourself up."

Dr. Margaret Paul, Ph.D., in Healing Your Aloneness

Feeling Our Words
Words Have Weight

Words carry energy and this gives language its power and its potential to heal or hurt. Most of us can remember a time that someone sent a word our way, and it stuck with us. It may have been the first time we received a truly accurate compliment, or the time a friend or sibling called us a name, but either way it stuck. This experience reminds us that what we say has weight and power and that being conscious means being aware of how we use words.

The more conscious we become, the more we deepen our relationship to the words we use so that we speak from a place of actually feeling what we are saying. We begin to recognize that words are not abstract, disconnected entities used only to convey meaning; they are powerful transmitters of feeling. For the next few days, you might want to practice noticing how the words you say and hear affect your body and your emotional state. Notice how the different communication styles of the people in your life make you feel. Also, watch closely to see how your own words come out and what affect they have on the people around you.

You may notice that when we speak quickly, without thinking, or rush to get our ideas across, our words don't carry the same power as when we speak slowly and confidently, allowing those receiving our words time and space to take them in. When we carefully listen to others before we speak, our words have more integrity, and when we take time to center ourselves before speaking, we truly begin to harness the power of speech. Then our words can be intelligent messengers of healing and light, transmitting deep and positive feelings to those who receive them.

Relating To The Negative
The Danger Of Repression

For the last several years, there has been a lot of focus on the power of positive thinking. Many people have come to misinterpret this wisdom to mean that it is not okay to have a bad mood or a negative thought or feeling. This can lend a kind of superficiality to their relationship with life and relationships with other people. It can also lead them to feel that if a negative thought or feeling comes up, in themselves or someone else, they must immediately block it out. When they do this, they are engaging in the act of repressing a part of themselves that needs to seen, heard, and processed.

When we repress parts of ourselves, they don’t go away so much as they get buried deep within us, and they often come out when we least expect it. On the other hand, if we allow ourselves to be fully human, honoring all the thoughts, feelings, and moods that pass through us on a given day, we create a more conscious relationship with ourselves. Instead of blocking out thoughts and feelings that we label as negative, we can simply observe them and then let them go. They only get stuck when we react to them negatively, pushing them down and out of sight where they get lodged in our unconscious minds. A healthier solution might be to develop a practice of following any negative thought we may have with a positive thought. This works well because positive thoughts are many times more powerful than negative thoughts.

Rather than setting our minds up in such a way that we become fearful of the contents of our own consciousness, blocking out anything that is less than 100 percent positive, we might resolve to develop a friendlier attitude toward ourselves, trusting in our inherent goodness. When we recognize our true inner worth, a few dark clouds passing through our minds will not intimidate us. We will see them for what they are—small, dark figures passing through an expansive sky of well-being and truth.

An invitation from two of my Reiki Friends:

Laurelle writes “This morning I awoke to inner whispers "Reiki hour...Reiki hour...Reiki hour...ask them...ask them....ask them...Reiki hour."
Reiki hour is the same concept as earth hour with Reiki of course...Reiki enhances everything

Sunday night(s) at 9:00 p.m. in their local time zone Reiki practitioners turn off all non-essential lights, and we become the light.

First we telepathically connect with one another using the distant Reiki symbol, thus becoming one united light. Then we send Reiki with the pure intention "Peace, Love, Health, Prosperity and Well-being for all beings." At the same time we visualize a world at peace and the earth returning to a healthy state of balance; see the air, streams, rivers and seas being cleansed.

For those who wish to participate, this can also be a wonderful way to personally receive a Reiki treatment at the same time. Simply be open to bathe in the energy as you are sending Reiki out. Group sessions of this nature enhance the strength of Reiki's healing power exponentially.

So as those inner whispers encouraged me to do this morning...I am asking... Will you please join us for Reiki hour at 9 p.m. Sunday night? That is 9 p.m. in your own time zone and we will create a wave of Reiki energy across the planet.
We plan to do this every Sunday night for the immediate future, and perhaps beyond. We hope you will join us.

Peace and blessings
Laurelle & Michael

I invite you to watch the lovely short movie “May you be Blessed” Just follow the link


Here is a picture of Texas wildflowers taken this weekend, Yes I went away and had fun!

Remember always that as you bless others, you instantly receive the blessing ...

Blessings and Love,


The Third Week of the Usui 21 Day Online Retreat

The Third Week of the Usui 21 day Online Retreat

When Usui Sensei was asked about the purpose and the outcome of his work, he answered that it was: “Shoufuku no hihoo, manbyo no reiyaku”. This phrase means “The secret art of inviting happiness, the spiritual medicine for all illness.”

When I am asked what Reiki is, I answer the same way instead of getting lost in an esoteric discussion. What a blessing Usui Sensei has showered upon the Earth with this simplicity!

Exercises for the Third Week

This week, please look at all the ways that Reiki has brought you happiness, and the ways that it has healed and is healing your discomforts. Return in your mind to the time when you began with Reiki, and look at the changes that have happened in your life since then. I guess that your whole life may have changed completely.

Sometimes we tend to forget the blessings that have been showered upon us. We take it for granted and forget our gratitude. Be grateful today and bow down to Reiki- and to Usui Sensei. Find a quiet moment every day of this week and sit on the floor if you can. Sitting in a chair should not stop you…You can sit either cross-legged or on your knees in the Seiza position (on your knees with your legs crossed under your butt).

Make sure you are not disturbed for a few minutes and very slowly and gently bow down to the floor, touching the floor with your forehead. In this moment, let go of everything: let go of your thoughts, your emotions, your body and become pure gratitude- without any attribute. Surrender everything you think as “yours” and be reborn in this

With love and gratitude, your friend, Frank Arjava Petter

Frank Arjava Petter is the author of seven internationally best selling books on Reiki. He teaches world wide and can be reached by email at Arjava@Reikidharma.com. You will find his teaching schedule and other info at www.Reikidharma.com